Just be sure to set healthy boundaries and remember no one can ever cross your personal boundaries without you unless you let them! Ideally, both partners are putting in the same effort to maintain a healthy relationship, but that doesn’t always happen. Present a Solution (THAT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HIM). Trust me, I’m there. I’m worried it will get very messy and that the kid will have adhd, I have it in my family as well on my mother’s side. It will only get worse. You forget to nurture and nourish them. That’s progress, but not perfection. I knew the 2nd month after i broke up with him because i thought he didn’t want to be in the relationship. He was supposed to fill out a form weeks ago for us to get a house but it’s an excuse why he won’t every time and I get blamed somehow!!! my boyfriend of 2 years has ADHD and recently told me he is depressed. I struggle with organization but I’m exhausted by days end work. Why live for 20, 30, 40 years with someone who is verbally abusive, has angry outbursts, blames all of their problems on you, and refuses to seek treatment? But it’s more severe in people with ADHD. I feel like I can relate to this so much. At times I can feel like that and then like a flick of a switch it changes to a place where I feel really bad about myself, like I am not important, I don’t factor like his friends do. I could also feel the sincerity when he says he’s willing to change anything for our relationship to work atleast for the sake of our daughter having a her family whole but he just couldn’t change everything at once. act out of turn and don’t think about consequences of actions It hurts me badly escpeically that I moved here, away from my family to be with him. You don’t have respect for your time and another persons time yet?? For me it mostly happens when it’s matters of justice. My husband has severe adhd and I’m struggling, ADDA offers its members many virtual peer support groups, including one for partners of people with ADHD. MAKE A BOUNDARY where you have independence and autonomy from him, for any part of life where unpredictability is not OK. For example, keep him far away from mailing your tax return to the IRS. Well that sounds more like a narcissist to me. But I am trapped here because you cannot sell a property until the liens against it are settled. Give me a break COLUMBO! My boyfriend has been diagnosed with ADHD since he was a kid. Make sure you let them know that they are important. With ADHD, life can be lived impulsively or haphazardly. Treated is no picnic either sometimes. We fight over the same things over and over again. I ended this relationship because of this communication problem but he tired so hard to get me back that I could not just walk away so far and I do love him too. Adderall has given me so much hope for our future together. I might as well be single because when the stakes are high, he isn’t reliable. What are some of these podcasts? Get In Their Heads. My boyfriend always reminds me of how much he loves me and how he doesn’t mean the things he says sometimes. I feel like i’m becoming more of a parent than a partner to him. It’s a vicious cycle, and when you throw bi polar in with it, that makes it that much harder, especially if he’s in a manic or depressive phase. He does always listen to my needs and I always feel very heard by him. He feels the need to drink, do drugs, or abuse cough medicine to help him deal with his issues instead of working on them constructively and acknowledging the problems. I wouldn’t be surprised if more than half the population still thinks ADHD is fake. Hi everyone, reading this website & these comments is spot on for me & my situation, and I’m hoping to get some advice. But we get board with the hum drum of non-ADHDERS and their expectations put on us. When you get upset, your body produces increased amounts of adrenaline, raising the heart rate and brain activity. Now that I know, I’m just a little worried. (It’s taken me years to learn that last one!). I tell her, Honey I can see how important this is to you, and your feelings are important to me so that means this is important to me. You can’t change another person, you can oly change yourself. How about more tools and tips for the ADD person to learn how to improve their relationship techniques to meet their partners needs also? He’s 33 , i’m 27 and it sucks to always be the matured one in a relationship and I felt like I also need to be taken care of once in a while. Thanks so much for the insight. Done that. According to what I’ve just learned, there’s alot of hope, isn’t there?! Is there anyone who has more experience in helping a loved one with their disabilities, who can help me? His “efforts” are good enough, he likes himself the way he is, I’m the one with the problem. Busy days filled with work, phones and Facebook can distance us from our partners. But she started changing. And while I appreciate being reminded of them, as I do have normal relationships in my life (thank God), they are way over simplified for dealing with ADHD on a daily basis. I love him very much with all my heart. If you have ADHD, or love someone who does, visit her website. (The combo of anti-depressants and ADD meds his doctors have told him not to drink on at all, and he’s not suppose to do drugs in order to keep his ADD meds, he gets piss tested for them.) thank you. I also have become more of a caretaker/maternal since he is very messy and needs a lot of emotional care (we are rarely intimate and usually just hug for a few seconds, per his choice). wish I had a different more positive story to leave you and give you hope. For a period I lived in another state and now we are just a few hours away. Seriously, I try to make it as easy as I can for him by leaving lists of things that our boys need to do on the school nights I work. He jokes and talks over me. He has a kid (7 years old) that he has every other weekend and he seems to be a wonderful, loving father but he doesn’t even have his own home for her obviously and don’t know how he affords to pay for her. Start the conversation by discussing how each person feels about the constant arguing. As time moved on we knew very quickly that we found our perfect match in each other and didn’t waste any time in discussing our long term plans and became pregnant with our first baby, about 2 months in things changed in him! I was diagnosed with ADHD a month an a half ago. He was the perfect boyfriend for about 4 months, we were so in love (I’m still in love) then started to withdraw. We always forget things , my kitchen is a mess , i work now so most days i don’t feel like cleaning & he throws that in my face ( alot ). What If Your Quirky Loved One Is Happy Just As They Are? He effectively filters out compliments or any positive traits I have. I am interested in the website geared towards couples. No matter how many times you ask/remind/help etc things dont really change . As for my hubby, I have been with him for 11 year’s this October. We both love each other and are doing our best, but the reality is that we need a third party to help my partner. The only reason I haven’t left yet is our own child, who has special needs and I am home schooling. TRULY. But his Dr. up his medicine and put him on 2 time release a day. What do I get from this relationship? My own to adults , supporting his career taking care of house hold things. Hi Everyone! It’s me, June, the author of this article. When you say the first thing that comes to mind, you may hurt someone’s feelings or give away secrets that were entrusted to you. Yeah, it may sound childish to do that or irresponsible but, sometimes you have to out those thoughts aside and realized the significant and afdsxt of one not taking their medication. The trait that drives you crazy is probably the same trait that brings a benefit to your life. If you are already having frustrations and reservations, that is your que to not make the relationship permanent . The need to oppose seems more important than the truth. Swearing is very common towards the kids. We can never just talk it out. when discussing paint options for a wall, ask ‘does this colour positively affect your mood? After reading this article and the comments I felt relieved that I’m not alone on this. You can learn more about it here. I would say, educate yourself about your ADHD and Asperger’s online, and if you can, get a professional counsellor on board to assist you to identify your patterns: things that make you act impulsively, what is really going on for you when you appear acting thoughtless, how you can give yourself some time before you make a decision that your girlfriend finds helpful and how the two of you can find a way to move forward together. I remember weeping because I wasn’t healing fast enough and I was exhausted. This too could play a major part in his confidence. He (she) always has to have a problem.”. I am so tired of having to explain myself constantly, being told how controlling I am (because I am organized),. I am currently living with a person who has adhd. He always calls me a psycho cause i get mad and end up forgetting the entire reason we were arguing. I these ones, in order for them to work, we need to learn how to love UNCONDITIONALLY, and be willing to help our special ones through the fog when they need it (and they need it alot, and always will) <3. But I thought its no big deal. I’ve begged, cried and tried to rationally explain how his behaviour is impacting my sleep, health, work, etc. ENJOY: Perhaps the best thing said. While these are not all the actions and behaviors associated with ADHD that can hurt a marriage, they are classic examples. I would say if you were to make an ADD marriage work, you would probably need to not have children. I have been seeing a great guy since July 18. Talking it out does not help, does not change things. I am just sick at how all of this has turned out! But, I can’t get a housekeeper because he sees that as unnecessary. ADD As a child I was very hyper and as an adult Im much calmer but my mind keeps going fast and today my husband admitted to me that he has ADHD as well out finances are always bad he’s in and out of jobs I’m a stay at home mom we are parents of a 3 year old smart baby girl he’s alcohol dependent and I’m codependent i procrastinate a lot and he does too always late schedules messed up it’s very messy I have found ways to deal with my ADD as i keep learning more about myself and this challenging mind of mine I love my husband dearly however we are both hurting each other in the process we both feel unappreciated we take eavhbotjer for granted and our baby girl is in the middle too I don’t have brain for certain things that happen and I just lash out and scream impulsive behavior as for my diet o am on a no sugar diet cutting down carbs to a minimum and I try to walk and get outside every day however it gets challenging too sometimes I don’t get enough sleep and I just procrastinate the whole day finding it so challenged to get out of bed no I’m not lazy I’m just too emotional and a lot of times feel so lonely and Wish someone would understand me fully it does get worse and I just feel we keep sinking . I have a Severe case of fibromyalgia and was like a single mother. Perhaps an intervention would be helpful. (Still working on how the relationship with the kids, but it is progressing). And while he could focus for hours on building with Legos, he would rarely stay at the dinner table for a meal. It sucks. Bickering, competing, and criticizing are habits that are harmful to a loving relationship. For example: I’m angry with you because you did this thing I don’t like, but our relationship is more than this moment. I just had an argument with my girlfriend who has adhd, she always seem to forget to consider my feelings. I’m sorry to say this to you, but do not feel that because you have fallen in love for this person that you need to stay and be his mother (which I’m sure he resents). and that includes a lot of bad behavior. To me, this is the sign you do have ADHD and a misconception of your life and how it relates to others. Tried to get my partner to read more about the condition so as to help him understand me more and why I do some of the things I do. In fact, there are even ways to ensure a completely happy relationship. I was where you are once upon a time ago Ivy & I don’t recommend unless a miracle presents itself & your man is willing t9 make the necessary changes in his life & become an adult then sweetheartci day don’t walk, run & save YOURSELF. And his explanations even though frustrating is that he just didnt think about it or that I was too fast into thinking about it. Hi Kate…we seem to have a lot in common! For example, kids with ADHD may cry more easily or get angry more quickly than kids without ADHD. Nor is a relationship about pointing out faults of another. there are not conversations on how the ADHD spouse can make the non ADHD’s spouse better and that is because they are simply not capable of it. Poor communication created by ADHD-related challenges in listening and remembering 2. I’m at the giving up stage cause I’m so stressed an aggravated with everything. We carry on, oblivious. But after reading all your messages here, I feel like I am not really a super hero to save him, and I don’t know if I am still sure to workout with him. I feel devastated. We got married and things began to change and go downhill. Too high of a dose. I can’t tell you what to do in your relationship but heavily consider, and don’t let guilt be a part of the deciding factor. GET SUPPORT. My children get so annoyed with him because he shouts a lot, is self centred, doesn’t seem to care about anything anyone else cares about, speaks harshly , makes excuses, blames – and this is all put down to ADD. U dont need a man like that. I was always a very organized, prompt, and responsible person. I hope that helps. I wouldn’t even consider having kids. Wwwhhhaaattt? I know i’m not a perfect partner either, i get easily annoyed, i have a little patience, perfectionist and I tend to be so hard on him sometimes that I forget to appreciate his efforts. I’ll stay with him but I’m not sure if we’ll ever be happy. Did I run like how all of you guys are encouraging people to do? But adding that to the mix and my anxiety and various struggles due to a previous relationship, we’ve had a rough time. If people with ADHD are to minimize strife in their relationships, they must “fight fair” and be willing to compromise. I don’t have kids yet and I’m soon 35. He is the most loving, serving and beautiful person I’ve met. I hope you both can figure it out. I want to understand him and his disorder. Fantastic advice, Kelly Thomas! Now that I know that I was not hurt intentionally, allows me To be more loving limitlessly and unconditionally and more true to her. She would constantly want to break up and fight over nothing. I have a very religious background and having a kid with him out of wedlock caused a lot of judgment from my family and friends from where I originally came from so we’re talking about getting married soon. My boss was talking about his new condo – do you see yourself living in a condo? I finally brought it up and he has been defensive and not willing to read much about it. Is it also some kind of a symptom? He knew at the beginning of the week i wasnt feeling great so eould have to let him know for sure i could come on the day (i let him know yesterday i would) today i managed to be ready on scedule as he wanted me at his for 7. No idea is a good idea unless he came up with it, he struggles keeping jobs, sometimes he becomes violent and condescending and says that he constantly feels disrespected…..yet he is completely unaware of the negative tone he uses rather than being pleasant. I am in a relationship since a year back, long distance (I live in europe, him in the states) and my boyfriend has ADHD, diagnosed since he was a kid. Only thing is, I have to ask him to help me. Within the past few years, he’s gotten more depressed and his fuse has gotten shorter. Thanks for your answer. I keep trying and keep getting rejected. This information was most informative and helpful to me as I move forward in a relationship with a person with ADHD. Every character flaw or challenge is put down to ADD – “that’s part of the condition, that’s me”. He was wuickly diagnosed with ADHD. You will be miserable and it will never get better. I’m sure he’s still in love but there is underlying issues that you are overlooking. He threatened me many times that he will break up with me and I am just the one asking and beg him not to and continue to workout with me. However, I still feel sad and hopeless to fight for our relationship with my ADHD BF. Overall, I just want to help at least one of you guys realize that you don’t have to run. On top of his ADHD he had all 4 hemispheres of his brain severely damaged in the accident. When he was diagnost due to a very stresfull period in my life I couldn’t fully invest myself in understanding everything that comes with it. But now I want to know if there will be marriage and children but all I’ve been getting are unknowns. Hi Beatrix, Everything is someone else’s fault. He’s calmer, appreciative, attentive and focused, everything seems to be so perfect. Inattention can also lead to mindlessly agreeing to things that you later forget. I have tried any & all of these at one time or another & depending on the degree of ADHD the person you’re dealing with has determines your success. Its not about who is right or who is wrong. I am getting to the point where I feel that we should separate for my own sanity. That is great advice, especially coming from a person with 25 years of marriage experience! He’s sweet and so kind, and we think so much alike on things. Hes just simply a cheater that happens to have ADD. I have been married almost 35 years,and have wanted to leave our marriage so often the past 20 years. All I wanted was a partner/companion now I find myself being ambushed into a corner where I’ve become the mother-figure/bitch/nag for asking him to just be home between 10 p.m. and 6 a.m. at night, just to be constantly disappointed over and over again. Influence with love, not anger. He is an amazing person and will do anything for me and vise versa, I just struggle to understand how we can have a long lasting relationship with out the ADD coming between us SO MUCH. We also try and appreciate our partners, respect their points of view and be patient. It may not be at those very moments when she’s upset or frustrated or overwhelmed, but she will have moments when she sitting there and she will reflect on how you treat her And those are going to be the moments that she’s going to be so loving and you’re going to say to yourself that she’s worth it. We are human; all of us are struggling through life individually, yet together. I like your point about prioritizing your conflicts. Also we do both see therapists. People with ADD have no emotional regulation, so when something bothers them it really intensely bothers them, or when something is frustrating, their emotions are multiplied. We both have add and I feel like the RSD aspect is going to ruin us. I only got correctly diagnosed when I was 40. He struggles with insomnia and loves playing video games. The added stress of children to the ADD person and to the marriage itself really makes it difficult to overcome the hurdles that being married to a person with ADD presents. My partner of 12 years was diagnosed with ADHD last year and admitted to a drug addiction as well not long after. The good news is that you are always an active participant in your marriage. Nothing gets thru to him. email@example.com. I would really like to have children in the next couple of years but I am afraid he won’t be able to handle it and that he will make me upset and stressed out during my pregnancy which could be very bad for the baby. I cannot deal with the “out from left field” attitude of just not giving a damn about anything all the sudden, forgetting about me when he’s working on a project, refusing to discuss feelings and our relationship, and trying to live his life like John Wayne. More loneliness. I got diagnosed about 8 months ago and he is just now realizing ADHD is likely his problem as well. Seems like the SSRI’s help. but his symptoms are really destructive to our relationship. combination type. But not responding to calls, texts, emails etc? Be Truthful – Yep, that was ADD Bullshit (you hate it too…don’t lie about that either), 2. This is a great article but I think it is better directed to the people who have ADHD. I wish I could have. Thank you. Anyone got any advice? We have to be understanding and explain to others why plans are changing. He still is friends with his ex’s I know that there are things I could have done better in our relationship, and I am willing to work on those because I still want to be with him. We do not live together but talked about living together about a year ago but that isn’t going to happen. My husband hadn’t been diagnosed with adhd, yet, but has all of the symptoms. Eventually I became used to things as they were! Be very kind if you don’t know what to say, then look at her and let her know that you’re listening say things like “I understand”, or “I’m listening, honey”, or “Wow” or “Really?” Sometimes I don’t say anything at all, I just listen, and then she’ll switch off to a different topic altogether. I also have someone help me with physical therapy. Not all the things he/she does is related to ADHD. Of course he believes this is all my fault. Never. Take it one issue at a time and present yourself a solution. After both our kids were born, he immediately took personal vacations to various places because it was his birthday or friends were going or “he deserved it.” So it didn’t matter that I had complications after c-sections and had little babies to take care of. How do you ask him to help you? He’s been telling me that I’m crazy and just a b**ch this whole time so I was sooo relieved and immediately started feeling better after finding those websites. I have add and that doesnt make me or anyone else with add the right to cheat on anyone just because we cant think clear. The only thing I can say is that it has helped me to work with a therapist. Please try to get out of your marriage for your own personal health. ADHD still has stigma attached to it and coming out at work can be risky if you do not have a sympathetic boss, for example. If you are a busy person and your not willing to give up some time, change your ways, and adapt for them well, you shouldn’t be with them. After reading this board, I think it’s time to put an end to this relationship. You nailed it. I’ve dealt with all of that frustration before, but in dealing with my ADHD *WIFE*; and do you know what I figured out? If your loved one has ADD please be compassionate and try to understand him/her and work the situation. Too many things dependent on your ability to remember them is NOT how to lead a successful life….ie: finances…get auto-pay. If that is the case then maybe my wife has a more severe case of ADHD, yet undiagnosed ,than I ever did as that is how I feel most of the time. Two key symptoms of ADHD contribute to our struggles with social skills. Unfortunately ADHD places us under constant stress which doesn’t always make that easy (it for one can make us seem like we lack empathy even though we are fine with it in reality). I shouldn’t be surprised by this as planning and the future is a foreign language to him but somehow I thought love would just magically provide answers for these questions. It is not an unreasonable request..but Rw…. Many children with ADHD also have a learning disorder (LD). Growing up in a family with members who have it and then my spouse and now my children. I have tried to rationalize, and talk about his sudden mental walk-aways and my feelings being set aside, or an agreement we made the day before being forgotten like amnesia. It took me a long time to adjust. I know this all sounds like they are children but it’s not like they chose to be like this. I have realised very early that his problems surpass my knowledge to help and understand. But, there are also great books out there your bf could read to help him truly understand what ADHD is and how it affects you and your relationship. I feel like whenever I try and talk to him he feels overwhelmed and nagged. I appreciate and suggestions on how to approach the subject from someone who has an ADHD spouse. It’s absolutely terrifying. But once you finally leave, you’ll start to regain your sense of self and your joyous spirit will come back eventually. Yes, I think my husband has ADD and has been undiagnosed for 44 years. I’m only still here because we have two wonderful children (one has ADHD: It is highly genetic). Any sort of drug or mental health treatment will only work if HE chooses it. In am in that exact same dilema and currently resting up due to severe stress and anxiety brought on by my adhd partner of 4 years. Impulsivity in responding before understanding or from misunderstanding 3. He just had meds prescribed. I changed a lot, started reading a lot of self help books, medication, excercising, walking every morning, eating healthy, doing research. But he won’t take meds. I really don’t think I could even suggest it to him as believe he would fly off the handle with me. I feel like a slave always cleaning up while he just sits on his playstation, littering the floors with wrappers of junk food. Emotional dysregulation and impairment in information processing are also quite common. It helps me to not think that i’m the problem or even them. move slowly and appear as if they’re daydreaming Exactly J! His ADD IS NOT an excuse hun. I have 2 children with him though ( a 5 yr with adhd and a 2 year old) and I don’t want to hurt anyone. Is my request for him to stay home at night an unreasonable request? Do you have any tips? I’m willing to give and do everything for him. It’s affecting his ability to even do college and his ADHD has made him depressed becuse he doesn’t feel like he’s able to get anything done successfully. Schedule a “shut down” time at least once a week. One thing that dramatically helped us is the psychologist has us listening to podcasts on adhd and relationship advice that interest us 2x a week. Sorry about your situation. ACCEPT that he will always be unreliable, just as you would accept that Seattle will always have cloudy weather. but I am getting really frustrated these days and it is really stressful to be in his messy life as well. Once, he mentioned that he thought he might have it because it was difficult for him to focus on finishing tasks. I’m just so tired and sick of all this drama from him & his problems & yet he won’t even TRY…. I know that’s frustrating but sadly, it’s true. Leaving the house, finishing projects, and showing up for appointments on time can be stressful for the person with ADHD. If he threatens to kill himself, how serious is he? The minute you say, “Whatever!” you will feel freedom like no other, because the right guy will not require so much work! Whst you dont seem to understand is that its more than just addiction…..this person has ADHD as well…… Seems to me that you are judging bcuz of drugs….. But I don’t know if we could bring out the best of each other rather than the worst. And he has the NERVE to question why women leave him Such as reading, pick out clothes and school snack for school and jammies and brush teeth before iPad time. Do yourselves a favor now and find a man without ADHD who can be a true adult for the rest of his life, or at least one who admits he has a problem, takes his meds, and will accept counseling. I feel as if I’m very understanding and try not to loose temper, but I also feel that I have to be allowed to criticize/say how I feel when I think he has done something wrong… but it never leads to any good. After reading these comments i’ve come to realize i’ve been doing this all wrong. He said how sorry he was that it was hard, then immediately reminded me he was about to head out to choir – leaving me to take care of dinner and putting kids to bed when I had just shared how I didn’t think I could go on. I can tell because he gets loud and in my face and starts nitpicking at our kids over small things. It has been extremely frustrating. He said yeh ok. That was it. his phone acting up, the shoe he tripped over, or towels on the floor. I hear the desperation and pain in the non-adhd partners over and over but see little addressing this with compassion. Having adhd doesnt mean you will never change, that is actually very insulting. Unfortunately, I have not found them aside from leaving the relationship as it was eating my own life away bit by bit. My husband has it. Even intimacy—I take pain meds that impact it and find it difficult and he takes that personally too. Fast forward 10 years in your mind…what do you see? The shame which such a position would evoke would in turn galvanise us to try and become better (being a man-child in this context is a pretty unsustainable state of affairs). Our life isn’t any busier than most couples with 2 kids and it’s probably only going to get busier. He is 33, I am 28. etc. I truly wish l could go back and find the things l liked and loved about yet l feel nothing. Personally, it sounds like you were with someone with something more serious NPD. An ADHD relationship requires patience and compassion, at times more than other relationships. he gave me an “out” and told me that i could leave before it gets tough. a lot of sex during their manic episode. 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